A few weeks ago I read this post that kind of changed my
world. It told us that we need to stop apologising for being
our-fabulous-selves. It said a lot more than that but it got me thinking. Why
are we a nation of overly polite, humble pie-eating-contest winners?
Who are you?
We aren't allowed to brag, if we do we are branded a show
off, a loser, annoying or overcompensating for something else. I know there is
a limit but there is a difference between saying "I'm doing really well in
my job and can finally afford that new car" and "I just bought the
new (pretentious car name and stats), it cost (obscene amount)
and it's better than any car in the world!". The latter person is a total
douche but why do we feel the need to hide our achievements so that we don't
make other people feel bad? I'm not saying go out and hurt people but why hurt
yourself, dull yourself down just to save the (very estimated) feelings of
others?
The reason this post (kind of) changed my world was because
this is something I have done my entire life. I haven't been able to find that
line between bragging and humility. I was rarely rewarded for my achievements
growing up, it just wasn't something we did in our house. This lead me to be
overly needy when it came to approval and so I wanted to make a bigger deal out
of my achievements which would amount to bragging. But I hated bragging, it
made me feel cheap, dirty and a little bit used, so most of the time my
achievements slipped by completely unnoticed.
I don't want to apologise for being educated.
I don't want to apologise for being quirky.
I don't want to apologise for being who I am.
Just because was a social chameleon does not make me fake.
Just because I have a few quirks does
not make me a freak.
Just because I laugh at my own jokes does not make me a
loser! Okay, even I admit the last one does make me a bit of a loser but do you
know what? I am really okay with that.
Embrace yourself, whether you are quirky, brilliant,
hilarious (if only to yourself) or just sweet vanilla because the minute we
accept and relish all the parts of ourselves that we like, others will too. And
the parts that we don't like? Explore why that part of yourself is deemed bad
and work though it.
This is me.
I am erratic, romantic, eclectic, eccentric, quirky, and whole
heartedly dramatic.
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